About
I'm The Strong Marriage Coach for Professional Women & their Partners
Your professional life is exciting and going well, however, you’ve been feeling frustrated in your relationship and wonder how you both end up looping in the same argument month after month.
I want you to know that you don’t have to feel APATHETIC, HOPELESS, STUCK, just COPE, or wait on the other person to CHANGE. And guess what? You also don’t have to end the relationship.
If you find yourself saying any of this, you're in the right place.
- Sometimes it feels like we are just roommates
- I can't tell my partner how I'm feeling without them throwing an example of how I hurt their feeling back in my face.
- Things just feel off and it's frustrating that I can't solve it like I do in other areas of my life.
- As the woman I feel like I do so much. I shouldn't have to carry the load of my marriage as well.
- We don't talk about the serious things in our relationship because it always blows up
- I want to want to be attracted to my partner again (you may need to read this one twice. haha)
- I feel like I'm out of options because I have already tried various approaches that haven't worked, including therapy.
- We don't know how to communicate
- Sometimes I feel so unseen and misunderstood
- I think it would be so much easier if he would just help around the house more, help with the kids more, be more romantic, not spend so much time with his friends, stop playing video games, stop falling through on his promises, put the toilet seat down, etc.
Here's what I'm all about
It only takes one person to improve the relationship.
you have what it takes within you to have a great relationship. you just need to understand why it's happening and get equipped with the right tools that you can use in daily life situations. That's where I come in.
I've been there
I know what it feels like to have a relationship that I value and want to be in but know that things could be better. I loved my business life yet knew I wanted more connection and communication with my partner.
I don't enable you. I empower you!
With clear and honest teaching and coaching, I’ll equip you with the lifelong tools you’ll need for self-growth, which is what leads to relationship growth. These tools will stay with you well after our work is done. You can’t unlearn them!
I get results
My signature A-B-C program is designed to discover WHY we do the things we do. Once we have that clarity we can figure out what you want and create a plan to get it. This is all done in a safe, discreet 1:1 coaching format with me. Client tested and approved!
'I've been able to apply these insights for instant results (lucky him!) - Thank you Christal!'
I had an amazing experience with Christal. She helped me see that my expectations of my relationship where actually damaging to the real experience I wanted for me. Old familiar habits were uncovered and I have been able to apply the insights immediately for instant results for me (lucky him!). Thank you Christal, you’re amazing, everyone needs you in their corner!
Monica, Texas
'The frictions have reduced with my husband and our relationship is getting better.'
This Relationship coaching program has really been transformational and has helped me address how i show up in my relationship with my husband. The frictions have reduced and our relationship is getting better. It’s all work in progress. Christal is such an amazing coach. Thank you!
Ashioma, California
Here's my story.
I unknowingly assigned myself the role of 'husband fixer'.
although i was very independent, this 'fixer' role blocked me from what i wanted most.
Hi there, I’m your coach, Christal. I could use this space to talk about my degree in Psychology or the training that I have put myself through to be your coach. However, more than anything, I want you to know that I can relate and can help you create the change you want to see in your relationship.
I used to think it was my job to carry and manage the feelings, emotions, and behaviors of my spouse. Sometimes I would even hold myself back from sharing if I thought I wouldn’t like his response. Which ultimately didn’t give him a chance and blocked me from the true intimacy and connection I desired in a relationship that I very much wanted to be in.
I would go about my day in a generally “good life” with recurring thoughts in the back of my mind on what I could do differently to get better results. If only someone would have told me that I didn’t have to try that hard. My clients get to experience a transformational change in their lives and relationships after our work together. I’m honored to be their guide and look forward to your turn.
Christal Allen-Harrahill
What came next: Acknowledging & accepting the fulfilling relationship I knew I wanted.
this included firing myself from the role of managing my spouse. btw - i was never hired in the first place!
Getting clarity on what I could control and WHY I was bothered was the first step I took in my awareness. Then I looked at how I showed up. I asked myself whether that was authentically me and whether or not I had my own back. I looked at my actions and realized I was neglecting myself in certain areas. Finally, I took a hard look at how I was giving up my peace. Life is already 50/50 so I decided that I wanted the entire peace percentage!
Expectations were the last area I had to evaluate and decide whether I wanted to hang my emotional well-being on another person executing (or not executing) my requests.
Now, my emotional well-being and overall quality of life sit on a firm foundation. Of course, there are times when I slip back into those old ways but now I have the awareness and skillset to pull me out. I think of them like a life preserver.
The true cherry on top is that these insights have improved ALL my relationships, not just the one with my husband.
I know that women can be the ChangeMakers and Influencers of their households and community.
It's my honor to help them show up as their best self. It's a true win-win
Society has taught us that it always takes two to improve a relationship. There are even songs about it!
I want you to know there is an immense amount of power in the action of just one. You don’t have to endlessly wait on the other person to change, even though they benefit from the work you do through coaching.
This work means so much to me because I know from personal experience and my clients’ results that my coaching brings a level of clarity and overall positive improvement in your relationship.
My clients experience getting the best care, tough love, and results in a discreet and proven environment. I’ll believe in you until you can do it for yourself. You got this!
Ready to stop having the same arguments with your partner and get the results you want in your relationship?
If you answered yes then you are ready for change!
